When Silence Is Golden…



Gold is precious. Likewise, keeping quiet and watching from the corner may be just as precious. It is true that Wise Men are not always silent: In fact wise people should not keep quiet, but they know just when it’s appropriate to be.

The following compilation of good reasons and Biblical verses (source unknown), attests to this – that it’s often precious to watch and see and to listen and learn.

1.  Be silent In the heat of
Proverbs 14:17: “Short-tempered people do foolish things…”

2.  Be silent When you don’t
have all the facts.
Proverbs 18:13: “Spouting off before listening to the facts is both shameful and foolish.”

3.  Be silent When you
haven’t verified the story.
Deuteronomy 17:6: “But… there must always be two or three witnesses.”

4.  Be silent If you can’t say
it without screaming it.
Proverbs 25:28: “A person without self-control is like a city with broken-down walls.”

5.  Be silent When it is time
to listen.
Proverbs 13:1: “A wise child accepts a parent’s discipline; a mocker refuses to listen to correction.”

6.  Be silent When you are
tempted to make light of
holy things.
Ecclesiastes 5:2: “Don’t make rash promises, and don’t be hasty in bringing matters before God … Let your words be few.”

7.  Be silent When you are
tempted to joke about
Proverbs 14:9: “Fools make fun of guilt, but the godly acknowledge it and seek reconciliation.”

8.  Be silent If you would be
ashamed of your words
Proverbs 8:8: “My advice is wholesome. There is nothing devious or crooked in it.”

9.  Be silent If your words
would convey the wrong
Proverbs 17:27: “A truly wise person uses few words; a person with understanding is even-tempered.”

10.  Be silent If the issue is
none of your business.
Proverbs 14:10: “Each heart knows its own bitterness, and no one else can fully share its joy.”

11. Be silent When you are
tempted to tell an
outright lie.
Proverbs 4:24: “Avoid all perverse talk; stay away from corrupt speech.

12.  Be silent If your words
will damage someone
else’s reputation.
Proverbs 16:27: “Scoundrels create trouble; their words are a destructive blaze.”

13. Be silent If your words
will damage a friendship.
Proverbs 16:28: “A troublemaker plants seeds of strife; gossip separates the best of friends.”

14. Be silent When you are
feeling critical.
James 3:9: “Sometimes it praises our Lord and Father, and sometimes it curses those who have been made in the image of God.”

15.  Be silent If your words
will offend a weaker
1 Corinthians 8:11: “So because of your superior knowledge, a weak believer for whom Christ died will be destroyed.”

16. Be silent If your words
will be a poor reflection
of the Lord or your
friends and family.
1 Peter 2:21-22: “Christ … is your example, and you must follow in his steps… He did not retaliate when he was insulted, nor threaten revenge when he suffered…”

17. Be silent If you may
have to eat your words
Proverbs 18:23: “The poor plead for mercy; the rich answer with insults”

18. Be silent If you have
already said it more
than one time.
Proverbs 19:13: “A … quarrelsome wife is as annoying as constant dripping.”.

19. Be silent When you are
tempted to flatter a
wicked person.
Proverbs 24:24: “A judge who says to the wicked, “You are innocent,” will be cursed by many people and denounced by the nations.”

20. Be silent When you are
supposed to be working
Proverbs 14:23: “Work brings profit, but mere talk leads to poverty!”


All scriptures, unless otherwise stated, are from the New Living Translation (NLT) of the Holy Bible.



I found this interesting piece about the introverts (written by Carl King). Being an introvert myself, I can testify that they are correct. Being an introvert is a very interesting lifestyle, peaceful and serene and sensible. And often misunderstood. And contrary to popular belief, many introverts actually love to remain just that: Introverts! There’s nothing to fix about that. Find below other myths about introverts. ❤


Introverts constitute a great percentage of the world’s best thinkers, philosophers, scientists, and artists. Yet they find themselves bullied, belittled, and misdiagnosed as being socially inept and threatening.Here are 10 of the most popular myths about introverts.


This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.


Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.


Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.


On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.


Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.


Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.


Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.


Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.


Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.


A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.

I’m an introvert, and proudly so. I don’t want to be “fixed”, because I’m not “broken” in the first place.







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In a world where Male-Dominance and Feminism continue to wage an unending war against each other, a Picture Perfect Person has been created, and we call it The Virtuous Wife, or The Virtuous Woman.
Now, “woman” and “wife” are two different words, but somehow, we have been able to create a hybrid, and so “woman” and “wife” have been used interchangeably and they still refer to this same Person.

Now, who is a Virtuous Woman/Wife?
Well, the history can be traced back to the popular Bible Verse in King James Version:

“Who can find a VIRTUOUS WIFE? For her worth is far above rubies.” Proverbs 31:10 (NKJV).

And for most people, I believe this is where it stops.
There is a Woman. She is Virtuous. And she is a Wife. She has many Wifely Qualities. Her Husband can brag at city council meetings. Her children call her Blessed. And then the popular verse 15: She wakes up before dawn to prepare Breakfast!!

So in summary, the Virtuous Woman is defined – by her multiple roles as a Wife. By her Husband. By her children. By her ability to Cook. And by her ability to engage in Manual Labour. And she must be God-Fearing, of course. Any woman who is not trapped inside this mold can not consider herself “Virtuous”. And somehow, we have created a Picture that did not even exist – of a Virtuous Woman that is NOT written in Proverbs 31! An Idol! Oh! The Power of Imagination.



But What Does The Bible REALLY Say About The VIRTUOUS WOMAN???

I will write a few, as written in Proverbs 31:16-18 (NLT)

“She goes to inspect a field and buys it;
with her earnings she plants a vineyard.
She is energetic and strong, a hard worker.
She makes sure her dealings are profitable;
her lamp burns late into the night.”

Wow!! This is not your typical “Virtuous Woman”, or is she? Within 3 Short Verses, the BIBLE changes everything we know about the Virtuous Woman.

She is the type of a Woman who has enough brain in her head to go and inspect a property and make the decision whether to buy the land/house or not!! She’s not that insecure woman fighting with her husband to include her name on a joint property as “Mr Said Smith and Mrs Susan Smith.” No, because she can buy her own property in her own capacity.
She is the kind of woman who can buy a vineyard or any business venture with HER OWN EARNING!!
She’s the kind of woman whose portfolio is full of PROFITABLE deals.
She’s a Woman who is Strong, Beautiful and Confident, but also a hard worker, even works late into the night!!

This is not your regular weak, docile, shamefaced kind of a woman who doesn’t have an opinion. Her husband can brag among other men at the Council Meetings because she has something meaningful to contribute and not because of servitude. Her children call her Blessed because she is a positive Role Model.

There is a Virtuous Woman in Proverbs 31. She is a Wife, yes. She is a Mother, yes. But beyond that, SHE IS A WOMAN!


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In the past, when you earn your first paycheck, you take it home, to your parents. Some call it #BlackTax…. Today, in the Christian Community, we have received another teaching, which is: When you earn your first paycheck, you should take it to Church… When you have a salary “raise”, you should take it to Church, and so forth. You must continue to vow every money to “God”.

Giving financial and material substances to our parents doesn’t seem to have anything to do with obeying the commandment to honour your father and your mother… But wait, it does!!

It is true that we need money to run the affairs of the Church, yes. And many of our Churches depend heavily and in fact some Churches depend exclusively on the members to provide the money. Somehow, that practice or tradition has replaced the emphasis on supporting our Parents with our financial and material substances.

Honouring the Parents, in our minds, have been limited to mean just courtesy and respect. Even “Parental Guidance” has been taken from the Parents – and a lot of people will rather do what the Pastor says than listen to their Parents.
However in the Bible, there are evidences to prove that Jesus seems to a completely different viewpoint. He took the matter up with the Religious Leaders of the time. And these are the Words of Jesus in Matthew 15:4-5 (NLT)

“For instance, God says, ‘Honor your father and mother,’…
But YOU SAY it is all right for people to say to their parents,

And just that, they are relieved of their obligations to their Parents!!

Jesus wasn’t happy with the situation at that time, and He is not happy about it today as well.

Jesus and His Mum

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I call it “Jesus and His Mum” because mentioning “Mary” could change the whole idea into two supernatural beings…. The people in the picture are not Jesus and Mary; but a representation of a Mother and Son having an ordinary every day relationship and conversation

In the Bible, Jesus and His Mum had their own share of Mother-Son relationship.

The first time, Boy Jesus got lost in the crowd in the City and his Mother panicked. It was later seen that this boy did it intentionally!! #Naughty
Then He went home and grew up into a fine gentleman; He was obedient, did His chores, and even took after His Father’s trade. A Carpenter!
Then we saw Him at the Wedding at Cana in Galilee, His Mum was trying to brag about His abilities – “My Son is gifted, ask Him, whatever He tells you to do is the Solution”, she bragged.

Jesus responded: “What is My Business with you, WOMAN?”.

“Woman, why do you involve me?” Jesus replied. John 2:4 (NIV)

For so many year, I believed that Jesus was kind of rude to his Mum, until the day my Son called me “Woman”, and it was the cutest thing. I thought about Jesus’ words and I understood the bond he shared with His Mum. And yes, He turned water into wine. And yes, everybody was wowed!

Then we saw Jesus having a strained relationship with His Mum and siblings when He refused to acknowledge them as Mother or Brothers and refused to go back home, because His ministry came first….

And we saw Mother’s Love for supporting His Ministry, after all, Blood is Thicker than Water…

Then we saw them both one final time at the Cross. He was about to die an unnatural and brutal death, He made provision for His traumatized Mother to be well cared for even after His demise by His most-trusted Friend – John, right there on the Cross.

Jesus Christ said it, and lived it:

Supporting your parents and providing for your parents is a vital part of honouring your father and your mother. Listening to them and making them proud is part of honouring your father and your mother. Even when you cannot be there to care for them physically, making an arrangement for them to be well cared for in your absence is also part of honouring your father and your mother.


Single vs Marriage 💑

On Single versus Married 💑

Well, normally I’m not the type who goes into that kind of argument. But recently a friend made a long list of the benefits of being single, and couldn’t find a single comparable benefit of being married…

Then I stumbled upon an article on TED.COM and decided to share it word for word. It was written by Jessica Gross, a New York writer and it highlighted a sixty something years old researcher’s findings and her quest to end discrimination against single people.

Perhaps one day I would share my own personal opinion. But for now, I’ll say: Read and enjoy😉

Bella DePaulo, now in her sixties, has always been single. For some time, she thought the marriage bug would bite her, until she realized it wouldn’t—and she didn’t want it to. DePaulo, who describes herself as “single at heart,” relishes the lifestyle. What she doesn’t love is the prejudice that single people face, from cultural stigma to discrimination at work, in the media and elsewhere. That’s why the Harvard-trained social scientist (now a project scientist at UCSB) has spent nearly two decades researching single life in America, publishing her findings in scholarly journals, in books including Singled Out, and on blogs. She explains why the pervasive negative stereotypes about single people are largely unsubstantiated, while the anecdotal prejudice is real — and so ingrained we often hardly see it.

First, let’s define our terms: “singlism” and “matrimania.” DePaulo has coined two words that are essential to this discussion. “Singlism is the stereotyping, stigmatizing and discrimination of people who are not married,” she says. “The flip side of that is matrimania: the over-the-top celebrating and hyping of marriage and coupling and weddings. So if you’re single, you get it coming and going.”

Single people face discrimination in the workplace …   DePaulo posits that single people’s non-work lives are often cast as less valid and valuable than married people’s. As a result, they’re often expected to cover while those with spouses or families leave the office early, take the leftover vacation slots or travel more on the assumption they have no need to be home. For US singles, there are also more concrete effects, like insurance benefits or Social Security benefits and pay: married men earn about 26 percent more than single men at equivalent levels.

… and are generally held in lower esteem than married counterparts. DePaulo and her colleagues created biographical sketches of people who were identical — except that half were single, while half were married. Participants judged the hypothetical singles to be less socially mature, less well adjusted, and more self-centered than their otherwise identical married counterparts. The effect was starker for hypothetical 40-year-olds — who, by cultural standards, are at a should-be-married age — but persisted for hypothetical 25-year-olds, too.

Yet, there are 107 million unmarried people over the age of 18 in the United States.“Single people are near half the population and — one of my favorite statistics — Americans spend more years of their adult lives not married than married,” DePaulo says. That means that the moralizing of marriage as an institution, and the accompanying degradation of single life, not only affects a huge proportion of the American population, but is out of touch with the country’s cultural reality.

We often don’t recognize singlism as prejudice. As part of a series of housing studies, DePaulo and her colleagues described to participants a landlord with two people interested in the available property. In each example, a person from a discriminated-against group offered to pay more than a person from a recognized majority, but the landlord chose the latter: a man over a woman who offered to pay more; a white person over a black person; a married couple over a single person. In each case, participants explained the landlord’s choice as discrimination—except in that last case. Then, “they said, ‘because the couple is married,’ like that in itself is an explanation,” DePaulo says. “They didn’t get to what was obvious in all the other instances: that it’s discrimination.”

Singlism and matrimania are the result of cultural insecurities. Perhaps counterintuitively, DePaulo thinks that the prejudice against single people and the hysteria about marriage are an outgrowth of our insecurities. “If the benefits of marriage were perfectly obvious to people, we wouldn’t need all this hype around it,” she says. The benefits marriage used to confer can now be attained in other ways: single women can have kids, sleep with partners without anyone batting an eye, and support themselves. To say marriage is a good choice for those who genuinely want it is one thing, but to believe that married people are unilaterally better off than single people is, DePaulo suggests, to betray a deeper ambivalence about what makes marriage a worthwhile decision.

The meme that married people are happier and healthier than single people is unfounded. DePaulo dug into the research supposedly proving the benefits of getting married and found substantial experimental flaws across the board. (Often, these studies either excluded divorced people entirely or lumped them in with single people, thereby obscuring the fact that they had gotten married — and hadn’t liked it. Another problem: Unlike with drug studies, a study of marriage can never truly isolate that variable; you can’t randomly assign people to get married or not.) The least problematic research, in DePaulo’s estimation, which follows the same people over the long term, has found that around the time of their weddings, people show a brief increase in happiness, then go right back to where they were when they were single. (If they get divorced later, they don’t even show this brief honeymoon effect.) Stigma against single parents is easily debunked, too: what’s really bad for kids is not having a single parent, but “conflict, acrimony or cold, neglectful environments.”

The bottom line is that there’s no better or worse — and no shortcut to happiness. Those who are happiest follow their desires, whether that means getting married or staying single. For DePaulo, as for many others, staying single just feels right. “If I got married, I would not become happier and healthier!” she says. “I love living single — except for all the singlism and matrimania.”

#SomethingForSunday: Before you say “Mi Casa et Tu Casa Part 2

Welcome to the second part of this historical account of two kingdoms which demonstrates to us that though relationship is a good thing, wrong association can have far reaching effects and the earlier we cut it off, the better.

The first part concluded with what seemed to be the end of an unequal alliance between two Kings, two Kingdoms, two dynasties, but was in fact the beginning of the consequences of a folly-alliance King Ahab’s deceit caught up on him while King Jehoshaphat narrowly escaped death. He returned to his Kingdom Judah and lived the rest of his life in peace and prosperity. What a God-fearing man. He would be missed! He was survived by seven sons.

His first son who was also the Crown Prince Jehoram succeeded him as King Jo II. Quick reminder: this young man was the same Prince who married the charming Princess Athaliah, Ahab and Jezebel’s daughter, a political marriage and a form of alliance between the two royal families. And needless to say, both of them followed the ways of Ahab!! How do I know? He did not bat an eyelid before killing his six younger brothers so he could secure the throne. Bloodshed? That was definitely Ahab and Jezebel’s way.

King Jo II was so wicked in his ways that Prophet Elijah, yeah, the same fire-spitting Prophet had to send a prophecy to him by MAIL as he couldn’t come physically – his hands were full in the Northern kingdom dealing with Jezebel and her sons and the entire Ahab dynasty. Thankfully, king Jo II only reigned for 8 years. He died of an incurable intestinal disease, that was after he lost all his children to attacks from marauders. He was survived by his wife Athaliah the Queen, his youngest son – 22 years old Ahaziah and surprisingly a Godly daughter Princess Sheba who was married to a Priest Iada. Ahaziah was crowned King – King Jo III. And as expected, he too followed the footsteps of his mother Athaliah and grandparents Ahab and Jezebel.

Talking of Jezebel, she seemed to have become the Iron Lady controlling both the Northern kingdom Israel and Southern kingdom Judah. Jehoshaphat’s alliance with her late husband gave her so much power in both kingdoms even though she was originally from another country entirely. And she was still notorious for her ruthlessness. Upon her husband’s death, her son Ahaziah became the King. But unfortunately, for whatever reason, he fell accidentally in his Palace and sustained serious injuries. He died from the complications of the injuries. He reigned for only two years. After him, his brother Joram who happened to be another son of Jezebel became the King. He reigned with terror for the next 12 years.


Elijah: the “Hairy”, “Fire-spitting”, “Letter-Writing” Prophet

It would appear that the dynasty of Jehoshaphat had an uncontrollable obsession with Ahab’s dynasty. They had this compelling urge that they must be loyal and faithful to their “brothers” up North. The relationship seemed to be one way and not the other way round.

History was repeating itself: Ahaziah, King Jo III joined himself with Joram to fight Joram’s battles again. And like his grandfather Jehoshaphat the First he escaped and survived and returned home. Also like Ahab, Joram too was wounded, but he didn’t die and returned to his hometown in Jezreel to recover. However, King Jo III he felt compelled to keep visiting  Joram until Joran fully recovered. Unfortunately for him, during one of his visits, there was a coup de tat taking place up North where King Joram was dethroned and killed by his Chief of Army Staff. King Jo III, by association, too became a victim. He tried to escape like his grandfather, only this time, he wasn’t so blessed. He was shot and killed. Tragedy!!

All these troubles were happening because of one man Jehoshaphat decided to tie his destiny and that of his family to a man who did not deserve it – Ahab!

At this point in history, the destinies of these two great nations all of a sudden lie on three generations of Women: Jezebel (the Queen Mother in Northern Israel), her daughter Athaliah (the Queen Mother in the Southern Judah) and the new addition – the Godly Princess Sheba, Athaliah’s daughter.

Athaliah: Judah’s Powerful Queen

At this point, it was time up for Jezebel. Enough of Ahab and his seeds!! Another king has taken over, Ahab and his entire household was wiped out!! An unpleasant end for the power couple Ahab and Jezebel.

The spotlight was back on Judah. Athaliah probably panicked. Her mother, brother and entire family have all been killed in the Northern kingdom. And her own son the king too was killed alongside. It was time to bring out the Jezebel in herself.
She took over the Kingdom, becoming the first female Monarch in both kingdoms. True to form, she ruled with iron hands. She destroyed the Royal Family and killed every rival who could have access to the throne, all except one, a baby whom her daughter Princess Sheba smuggled out of the palace and hid in the Temple; baby Joash who would later become King Jo IV, the king who, after all the drama, would make it all right again

It’s never too late for good to trump evil, and for every wrong to be made right. It was time for Princess Sheba to stand against the Queen Mother.
For six years, Athaliah reigned as the Supreme Monarch, Jezebel incarnate. It seemed evil had prevailed. But behind the scene was a toddler and his nanny, protected within the Temple walls by a rebel Princess and her Priest husband Iada and a privileged few sworn to secrecy.

As I conclude this series, I thought about the movies I’ve seen where Priests commit treasonable acts, revolting against reigning Monarchs and toppling kings. Perhaps the most fascinating to me is “The man in the iron mask” which displayed the bravery of the three musketeers and a faceless Prince.

JOASH: The Boy King

Here, it was Jeho-Iada the Priest who felt he had had enough. But he couldn’t do it without the military. summoned five army Commanders, the Carite mercenaries Levites and some Temple guards. He made them to swear an oath and revealed the Prince to them. He was just a seven years old baby, but he had enough Royal Blood to become the King. They knew they were at risk of immediate execution for treason, but it was a risk they were willing to take.
And just like that, they Crowned Joash as the new King, King Jo IV, even though the ruthless Athaliah was still alive and well. It was a bloody one, but they found to finish. And Queen Athaliah was executed for her crimes against humanity.

JOASH: What a cute and lovely boy name!

King Joash King (Jo IV) reigned under the supervision, tutelage and mentoring of JehoIada the Priest. As a team, they corrected every single wrong and made Judah great again. They brought peace, prosperity and national security back to the Kingdom. They led the people back to God. And laid a lasting positive impact. That’s not all, but Iada the Priest was blessed with long life living up 130 years and was buried among the kings, because he did well for the nation.

It took four generations to be finally free from the influence of Ahab and his family, an alliance his great grandfather has trustingly and blindly forged, but phew! It feels good to be free indeed.



#SomethingForSunday: Before You Say, “Mi Casa et Tu Casa” (Part 1)

Welcome back to KemiDele’s blog. My thoughts this Sunday dwell on a little historical event found in the Holy Bible.

You know that when we see a relationship like WALL*e and EVE, we remember the popular old saying: Opposites Attract. Yeah, but sometimes, for the sake of common good, some “opposites-alliance” must not be allowed to thrive.

Pixar’s WALL-E & EVE

There’s a Bible verse which states that “Be ye not UNEQUALLY YOKED TOGETHER with unbelievers…” 2 Corinthians 6:14, kjv).  I used to struggle with a Bible verse which preached an apparent discrimination. But over the years I understood the true implications of being unequally yoked together with someone, some organizations or institutions with conflicting values. It’s got nothing to do with discrimination; unequal yoke is a nightmare!!

The Message Bible captures the essence of this passage perfectly!!

“Don’t become partners with those who reject God.
How can you make a partnership out of right and wrong? That’s not partnership; that’s war.
Is light best friends with dark?
Does Christ go strolling with the Devil?
Do trust and mistrust hold hands?
Who would think of setting up pagan idols in God’s holy Temple?…” 2 Corinthians 6: 14-16a (Message Bible)

Paddling a canoe in opposite direction is to be unequally yoked. It doesn’t make sense😦

Now back to my story. It’s a story about some notable Kings and Queens in the Old Testament of the Bible.
I don’t know if you have ever heard of King Jehoshaphat, but you are more likely to have heard about King Ahab, and definitely about Jezebel. Yes, the same popular Jezebel – the Princess of Sidon, daughter of EthBaal, an absolute Monarch, and later became the wife of one of the worst Kings in Israel – king Ahab.

Jezebel: A Ruthless Queen, A Faithful Wife

King Ahab and his wife Jezebel ruled over Northern Israel while King Jehoshaphat (King Jo the First) ruled over the smaller Southern Israel also known as the Judah Kingdom right about the same time, reigning for 22 and 25 years respectively.

King Ahab was notorious for his wickedness. He married a beautiful Princess Jezebel and they both ruled with iron hands from Samaria, the capital of Northern Israel. Their reign was full of terror and bloodshed. It was during his reign that Prophet Elijah caused 3 years of famine and also called fire from heaven. Their marriage was blessed with many children, especially Princess Athaliah!!

King Jehoshaphat (King Jo I) was the exact opposite. He was a good and a Godly man, a King of Reform. He was the one who made the Popular speech: “Believe in the Lord your God, so shall ye be established; believe his prophets, so shall ye prosper”. His reign was known for peace, prosperity and national revival.
King Jo I reasoned that the two Kingdoms should be able to work together in harmony, so he formed an alliance with King Ahab, (the biggest mistake of his life). In fact, his son Jo (Jehoram) married Ahab and Jezebel’s daughter, the beautiful Princess Athaliah, thus the two first families became in-laws.

How can such a good man Jehoshaphat and such an evil man become so yoked together in an alliance? We should find ways of unity rather than division. Jo’s intentions were noble, Ahab’s weren’t. Jo trusted Ahab so completely that the motto of their relationship became: Mi casa es Su casa!! What is Mine is Yours, My Home is Your Home!!

Anyways, King Jo I was about to meet the real Ahab! Many years later, Ahab deceived Jo into a war with some countries (Aram) based on border disputes. Ahab and Aram had some unresolved disputes where he (Ahab) was deceived by a disguised Aram king. Ahab was itching for a fight, but he wanted to use his friend, fellow king, partner and in-law Jo as the BAIT!!
When he enticed Jo I to join forces with him in that war against the Aram king, King Jo I replied using his usual lines: Mi casa es Su casa!!

“Why, of course!
You and I are as one.
My troops are your troops,
and my horses are your horses.” (1 Kings 22:4)

Even when Jo knew that the battle would be an unnecessary waste of precious lives and resources, he still agreed.
Even when he knew the spiritualists and prophets consulted were telling lies, he still agreed.
Even when Ahab showed his real intention: To expose King Jo I to danger to protect himself, Jehoshaphat still agreed. He was a man of his words, isn’t it?
(Ahab) The king of Israel said to Jehoshaphat, “Wear my kingly robe; I’m going into battle disguised.” So the king of Israel entered the battle in disguise. (1 King 22:30)
Meanwhile the Aram king was also not interested in the war. It was already three year after their last encounter and he wasn’t looking forward to any more battle; it would be an unnecessary waste of lives and resources. So he decided to kill the king (Ahab) and end the war.

King Jo the First fought another man’s battle, dressed in another man’s regalia, in another man’s chariot…. And he was attacked like that other man. To all, he was Ahab, the one and only target of the enemy.
Long story short, he escaped, but only by some Divine Intervention. Someone recognized his voice, and knew that was not the voice of Ahab. nor the attitude of Ahab. So they spared him. He ran back to his own Kingdom of Judah, without looking back! Experience, they say, is the best teacher

Ahab with all his disguise, unfortunately did not escape still. He was shot by a random soldier, and it blew up one of the big arteries of his leg. And he bled all day. The life of an ordinary soldier – he received no urgent medical attention, and no help at all. To the onlooker, he was another soldier and not the King, there was no need to rush. So he lost so much blood and died.

Well, this looks like the end of the story, right? But trust me when I say the saga was just BEGINNING!! Wrong association always has terrible repercussions; and we must never be afraid to pull out once we recognize the danger signs…
Watch out for the second and concluding part of “Before you say Mi Casa et Su Casa” next Sunday.

All scriptures, unless otherwise stated,are from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation.